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WOULD YOU CONSIDER JOY MONGERING?
By Cordelia Gaffar
We are bombarded with messages of “fear mongering” everyday. For example, in the home kids are taught to be afraid of getting in trouble, in school children are afraid of consequences, in business adults are afraid to speak their mind for fear of backlash, and globally social media is full of fear mongering click bait.
I believe that “joy mongering” can be a choice not just an emotion. It is a state of being. In that beingness, we feel peace, love and generosity towards others.
In every moment we have a choice, we can choose to believe the fear messages or we can create a new belief. What if we took a stand for “joy mongering”? Imagine what could happen if we raised our children this way, we taught this in schools, and we created a “joy mongering” culture in business. Imagine a world where “joy mongering” was our GLOBAL CULTURE.
Transmuting difficult emotions into what I call Joy Mongering is my life long practice. In July of 2001 I became Muslim. Which was two months before the historical event of “9/11” when the twin towers were attacked in New York and the Pentagon in Washington DC allegedly by Muslim men. As a Senior Accountant and mother, in that moment my life changed forever.
I can remember being at the elevator at work, dressed as Muslim woman wearing traditional headcovering and long dress covering down to my ankles. As the elevator doors opened, a woman said, “I don’t want to get in the elevator with her, she has one of those blankets on her head”. I could feel the fear and confusion in her.
Then I noticed others stepped away from me and began to look at me up and down. I felt shocked and confused. By the time I reached my floor I realized that everyone was reacting out of fear. I was mostly in shock yet grateful for the solo trip to the ninth floor to reflect. How could I change their fear?
I began to see fear everywhere from the grocery store, to road rage, and restaurants on date nights. I began to ponder what is the solution to the “fear mongering”? I decided the solution is Joy Mongering because when we are in Joy we feel compassion and when we are in compassion we feel safe. Joy and gratitude for our existence and opportunity to express compassion to one another.
Now as an Emotional wellness coach, podcast host of not one but two shows, author of eight books (on topics include grief, self-nurturing, nutrition and love) and mother of six, I have personally experienced the positive effects of “Joy Mongering” which is why I created my signature process known as Replenish Me ™.
Through Joy Mongering I am able to help female leaders create productive and successful teams and compassionate cohesive cultures in corporate.
Through Joy Mongering families are able to create more connection and nurture more joy instead of a household of hustle and bustle and chaos.
Joy Mongering is a state of being
Joy Mongering is a choice
Joy Mongering is perceiving everything as an experiment
Joy Mongering creates inner peace
Joy Mongering creates world peace
Curious minds want to know what Joy Mongering is. I love sharing the Replenish Me ™ Process of Release, Restructure, refresh and Rebirth through poetry.
Joy Mongering Is…
It is going from Black and white to color.
That color being green which inspires the heart and mind
Minding your heart is joyful business
It can even cause extreme dizziness
Who knows what you will find
What you thought you craved
Is to be saved, for another time
Once your heart, feelings and soul align
Benevolently swinging, preening, while your greening your way through life
Turn off of the malevolency of your thoughts and deprogram strife
Choose to use your wisdom, presence is so powerful in this
And all the things you feel compelled or have been conditioned “to do” could make you miss
That one opportunity to all your heart to sing and your inner child to wean from toxic waste
It’s all happening, while you be cappin in it coppin meth what you call your “to dos”
And all you DO is making a fool of you post haste
Joy mongering is the opposite of All of That!
If you choose to monger leave the hate squeeze out the fear and be joyful, toyfully allow your true self to appear
Would you like to feel more joy and presence in your life? Consider joy mongering.
About Cordelia Gaffar
Cordelia Gaffar is the World’s Best Joy Monger. That means that she holds space for you to reveal your joy within. Joy Mongering is a word she created after experiencing the brunt of people’s fear as a Muslim woman. In fact she has created a process she calls Replenish Me ™ to help you transmute fear, rage and anger into Joy. In one of her eight books, Detached Love: Transforming Your Heart Do That You Transform Your Mind, she breaks down the Replenish Me ™ process through her research, client stories and her personal vulnerable shares.
She is also the host of two host podcasts. She won Best Podcast Host for her solo show called Free to Be Show and collaborates as a co-host on Unlearning Labels. The multidimensional genius she is, is further demonstrated as the mother of six children whom I homeschooled for 17 years. In summary, she has won multiple awards: Best Podcast Host of 2019, Top National Influencer, Sexy Brilliant Leader, and inducted into the Global Library of Female Authors in 2020; and in 2021 nominated for Author of the Year and Health and Wellness Coach of the Year. She has also won the Brainz Global 500 Award of Influencers and Entrepreneurs for 2021 and won BOOKS for PEACE 2022 award.
She has been featured on America Meditating Radio, British Muslim TV, Spirituality Podcast, also featured on South African radio 786, and Fox News.
https://www.cordeliagaffar.com
